I’m too much of a pessimist and procrastinator to set resolutions. Like many, I don’t make them because I know I don’t stick to them but for the last few years I’ve been coming up with themes for the year. It’s something I started after attending a Joy Workshop for work.
In 2014 my theme was: living a life of joyful purpose. I stuck with it. We got married, I left a job I was unhappy at and I followed my heart to the Bay Area to be closer to family.
In 2015 my theme was: just do it. My procrastination and head often get in my way so I decided to focus more on not overthinking things and just do it. In that theme, I got a new job and we finally were able to build a life in the Bay Area.
In 2016 my theme was: happy, healthy. I think I focused more on the happy than healthy but overall I stuck with self care and doing what felt good for me.
This year, my theme is intentional living. In the daily hustle, I often get caught up with work and the world that I don’t always remember to focus on what is most important to me. I have a wide range of interests and rather than enjoy them, I get overwhelmed and put them off for another day. I’d like that to stop. I know how short life can be and I want to get a lot out of my short life and I want to make a real impact in the world and with the people in my life.
Some of the main values I want to be at the forefront are family, health, my community, religion and my culture.
- Family – I love spending time with my family, I plan to keep that up but also I’m hoping to start one of my own. I’d like to get pregnant but if that doesn’t happen I’ve always wanted to adopt, so seriously considering that in the next few years if I can’t have a child myself.
- Health – Not just the weight on the scale but nourishing my body with the right foods, drinking enough water, getting enough sleep, keeping my mind right with learning and releasing the negative energy.
- My community – education, politics, poverty, equality, race issues those are all things that are important to me and rather than listen to other people make a difference this year I want to do more locally and in my community to contribute and make real change. With the incoming President and Congress, it has me real nervous but I’m not going to be paralyzed by that. I’m going to act.
- Religion – every year I want to work on this area. In 2016, I started attending a great connect group as part of the new Hillsong SF church. The church isn’t even formed yet but the connect groups are starting to build the community and I really enjoy going. In addition to connect group, I need to go to church more, read my Bible and pray more.
- Culture – I’m Filipino and Mexican but more so I’m American. I took Spanish in school but retained nothing so I want to learn to speak my native tongues and I want to visit both countries.
I’m excited to be more intentional this year and I hope I can stick to those areas and really grow this year. I’m exciting for the road ahead. If you’re interested at all in being more intentional, this is a good place to start: The Helpful Guide to Living an Intentional Life.
2016 was a roller coaster of a year. So many good things but also a lot of bad. On the personal front, it was a good year for me and my husband. Our family went through some tough times with health issues and some family passing but we pulled through and were able to spend a lot of time with them.
For the US and frankly the World, 2016 felt like a disaster…I’m not really going to get into it here on this blog because I’m trying to manifest positive energy in my life but if you’ve been hiding under a rock, Google it. I’ve been obsessed with all the news, especially listening to Urban View and Progress Radio on Sirius XM. It boils my blood and gives me anxiety.
Enough said, to focus on myself…I’ve identified the top lessons I learned from 2016.
- Travel is an essential part of my life. We’ve still haven’t traveled internationally together (my husband and I – we were broke students for a long time and then worked happened and we just never made it a priority, which in hindsight was a mistake but we can’t go back now…) but in 2016 we made some fun trips and adventures together and with my family. We started the year by going to Monterey with my parents, sister and nephew and checking out the aquarium, he’d never been. We traveled to our second home, SoCal, several times and did a lot more exploration of the Bay and NorCal. Overall we had fun but we’ve been eyeing all the places we want to go and it’s a long list. In 2017, we are making it more of a priority.
- Making friends as an adult is tough. I’ve lived in the Bay Area now for over two years and prior to that we were in LA two years and besides people I talk to at work, I haven’t made any new friends that I hang out with outside of work. It’s not for lack of wanting to or trying. It’s just tough and I’ve read about it a lot. I’m sure some of it has to do with my introversion but I just find that responsibilities, families and distance are tough to get past. I hope in 2017 we can make some genuine new friends.
- Keeping friends is hard. Life happens, I get it, but distance makes keeping friends hard. I’ve moved around a lot in my adult life. After high school I lost touch with a lot of people, then I moved to San Diego and it was even harder to keep in touch. I made most of my good friends while living in San Diego for college but even with that group, when we moved to Pasadena it was hard to stay close. Since then, I still have a group of girlfriends but we hardly get to talk. Even my best friends are distant now. I don’t have kids but I notice, after my girlfriends had kids I lost touch with them. I understand but it still makes me sad to think of all the time lost, which goes to my next point…
- Life is short and you never know when you’ll lose someone. This isn’t a new realization but it was a huge reminder this year, that life is short and you really have to cherish the time you have with people. My Uncle, my mom’s brother, died and a cousins wife who was near my age suddenly died of a brain aneurism. We had some close calls with my mother-in-law, my grandmother and my husbands cousin this year. It’s been a whirlwind on the health front.
- Self care and overall health needs to be a priority. On the health front I have heart attacks, heart disease, strokes, HBP, diabetes, high cholesterol, anxiety and other health issues in my family so I really need to get my weight and stress levels under control. With my family history and my hope that I get pregnant this year, I want to make sure I take care of my health. I want to be in the best shape possible pre-pregnancy and I want to be able to effectively handle my stress this year. I’ve been going to a chiropractor regularly and plan to go to an acupuncturist too. It’s all about getting in tip top shape physically this year.
Overall, those were the big things in 2016 but in general 2016 was a good reminder that I need to stop wasting time and do it now. The underlying theme of 2016 was “the time is now.”
Working out is a chore to me. I’m guilty of starting the week off strong and finding every excuse not to go to the gym because I get bored easily. I’d love a personal trainer but it’s just not in the budget. To help me stay on track I prefer to go to classes.
When I heard about CLASSPASS, some good (here & here) and some bad (here & here), I was intrigued but not sold. I was hesitant until I saw a last chance offer for a deal for a $19 trial on their base plan, which is 5 classes/month (normally $65/month), I knew I had to try it.
What I loved about the offering was I could take classes anywhere in the Bay Area. I work in the Tri-Valley area and we live in the South Bay so I can plan my classes with my commute. The best part is the variety because I’ve pretty much tried it all including Reformer Pilates and a trampoline/TRX workout.
An added bonus is you can use it in over 30 locations across the globe. I highly recommend it. If you haven’t tried it yet, here’s my referral link: http://class.ps/eoWQu. You’ll get $30 off your first month.
I just posted about OITNB Season 4 on Friday and it’s only Monday but I finished all 13 episodes last night…I even posted about it on Facebook. lol
I know a lot of people will take some time to finish it so I’m not going to post any spoilers but I thought this season was so good. Brings me back to what I felt like after finishing season 1. Major cliffhanger and the last two episodes were my favorite. Plus I want to give a special shout out to Poussey and Taystee. Love them and that’s all I’m saying for now.
After admitting I already finished the whole season I felt these memes were so appropriate. lol
If you finished the series, what did you think?